You’ve probably never heard of Lee Pitts. He’s a syndicated newspaper and magazine writer and the author of several books. One of his books, People Who Live At The End of Dirt Roads, is a collection of essays that describe a simpler time in America. One of the essays in the book is entitled These Things I Wish for You and was popularized by Paul Harvey, a famous radio broadcaster for ABC Radio Network from 1951 to 2008. Harvey read Pitt’s essay to his audience during his morning radio show on September 6, 1997.
I think about and reread that essay every Thanksgiving because it reminds me of my childhood and some of the many reasons I am thankful for the gifts God gave me. Here’s the text of the essay:
We tried so hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse. For my grandchildren, I’d like better. I’d really like for them to know about hand-me-down clothes and homemade ice cream and leftover meat-loaf sandwiches. I really would.
I hope you learn humility by being humiliated, and that you learn honesty by being cheated. I hope you learn to make your own bed and mow the lawn and wash the car. And I really hope nobody gives you a brand-new car when you are 16.
It will be good if at least one time you can see puppies born and your old dog put to sleep. I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in. I hope you have to share a bedroom with your younger brother. And it’s all right if you have to draw a line down the middle of the room, but when he wants to crawl under the covers with you, because he’s scared, I hope you let him.
When you want to see a movie and your little brother wants to tag along, I hope you’ll let him. I hope you have to walk uphill to school with your friends and that you live in a town where you can do it safely. On rainy days when you have to catch a ride, I hope you don’t ask your driver to drop you two blocks away so you won’t be seen riding with someone as uncool as your mom.
If you want a slingshot, I hope your dad teaches you how to make one instead of buying one. I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books. When you learn to use computers, I hope you also learn to add and subtract in your head. I hope you get teased by your friends when you have your first crush on a girl, and when you talk back to your mother that you learn what Ivory soap tastes like.
May you skin your knee climbing a mountain, burn your hand on a stove, and stick your tongue on a frozen flagpole. If a friend offers you dope or a joint, I hope you realize he is not your friend.
I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your grandpa and go fishing with your uncle. May you feel sorrow at a funeral and joy during the holidays. I hope your mother punishes you when you throw a baseball through your neighbor’s window and that she hugs you and kisses you at Christmas time when you give her a plaster mold of your hand.
These things I wish for you — tough times and disappointment, hard work and happiness.
The reason I like the essay so much is that it reminds me of my own experiences growing up in a family of 17 children.
I remember the hand-me-down clothes and the homemade ice cream. (We made homemade ice cream from the cream that we skimmed off the raw milk we got from the cow my dad milked every night.)
I remember being forced to make my own bed, mow the lawn, and wash the car.
I remember breaking my leg on a September morning when I was 10 years old. I had just finished a summer that I was proud of because the month before I broke my leg, I supervised and built a tree house with my 11-year-old friend.
I remember the argument I had with my dad when he refused to buy me a used car. We were standing in the kitchen when it happened. I was 16 and felt as though I was entitled to a vehicle. He stood his ground and told me that if I wanted a car, I was going to have to get a job and pay for it myself.
I got pretty good at doing things to make my older sister Mary happy because I needed to make sure she would be willing to loan her car to me when I needed it. I bought my first car when I was 18 — a rusty 1968 Ford Falcon 500. I paid $150 for the car. It died after three months, but that was okay because a week after I junked it, I went off to college.
I remember seeing a calf being born in my dad’s barn. Dad helped the process along by tying a rope around the legs of the calf and gently pulling it out of its mother’s birth canal.
During all the years that I lived in my parents’ home, I shared a bedroom with one or more of my younger brothers. For a few years in grade school, I slept in the same room with three of my brothers… Four boys in one room, on bunk beds.
I remember when my 13-month-old sister died in my mom’s arms, a tragedy that still brings tears to my eyes every time I think about it.
There were numerous occasions when one or more of my younger brothers tagged along while I went on one of my self-proclaimed adventures. Together, we made our own slingshots, built forts, carved our initials in the highest tree limbs in the neighborhood, competed in sports, shot guns, threw knives at trees, camped outside, and spent hours at the picnic table playing board games.
We skinned our knees and burned our hands more than once in fires that we started in the woods next to our home. And yes, when I was a young boy, I stuck my tongue on a frozen pole when one of my cousins dared me to do it.
I know what soap tastes like because there was one occasion when my mom washed my mouth out because I had said something disrespectful to her.
Some of my best memories include working with my grandfather and sitting with him in his living room watching his favorite westerns on TV.
Each of these experiences was a part of God’s complex plan for me. Although there was pain and disappointment, there was also joy and happiness.
We should all be thankful for everything God has allowed us to go through. Hopefully, all those experiences have helped us to become wiser and more loving individuals.
Of your children whom I have met, I would say that you have done a wonderful job raising them.
Thanks Kate. I hope you and your family have wonderful Thanksgiving and a Blessed Christmas.
Thank you for the wonderfully expressed reminders of how life is a combination of joy, challenges, sadness, success, wonder, and gratitude. For those who have experienced such blessings, I believe we are called to share with others so they too can appreciate the goodness that can be found even among the challenges.
Thanks Sandy. We are all blessed in different ways. One key to happiness is to do our best to focus on the things we should be grateful for rather than the sufferings that we are forced to endur. I hope you and your family have a joy-filled thanksgiving, a blessed Christmas, and a Happy New Year! Harry
Harry, thanks for reminding us of the blessing of parents who cared enough about us to be our parents and not our friends. It’s because of our families and our Catholic faith that we can sail through the good times and weather the storms of living a full human life. I really
appreciate your faithfulness in posting these lessons every week.
I wish you and your lovely wife and family a blessed and happy Thanksgiving!
Thanks John. I thought of you when I posted the article because you previously told me that you enjoyed reading Lee Pitts’ essays. You may be the only person who reads my weekly articles who knows anything about him. I hope all is going well for you and Eileen. I appreciate your comments and support. Take care, Harry